Two important things that matters in how we deal with people is how we speak and how we react or express our anger.
Failure in these two critical areas can destroy relationships and hinder you from the path of success.
You see, it is a display of great wisdom when you speak well and also delay or decline from anger. Nothing can better show your spiritual maturity than this, that is, how you speak or display anger.
James 1:19 says; “Understand this, my beloved brothers and sisters. Let everyone be quick to hear [be a careful, thoughtful listener], slow to speak [a speaker of carefully chosen words and], slow to anger [patient, reflective, forgiving]”.
Being slow to speak, has to do with chosing your words carefully when talking with people. Just as the Bible admonishes that, our words must be seasoned with salt and it must minister grace to our hearers.
See Colossians 4:6 “Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man” and Ephesians 4:29 “Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them”.
Being slow to anger also means that you don’t express your strong feeling of being upset at the slightest confrontation. As a believer, you must be a master of your emotions. In fact, you must be Spirit led and not fleshly led.
You must not allow your emotions to guide your actions. Don’t be a “reactive” person in life. Although people may sometimes go overboard when dealing with them, exercise your spirituality and wisdom by choosing not to act hastily or in an ungodly manner.
Ecclesiastes 7:9 says that; “Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools”.
Learn to control your words and your emotions in terms of being angry.
Read: Proverbs 16:32 “He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.”
Study: Genesis 49:6-7